Moving house is known to be a very stressful life event. Contrary to what most people who haven’t done so think, it’s not a very straightforward and easy process. There’s a lot of things going on like packing your things, cleaning the house you’ll be leaving behind, making sure that everything is on schedule and a whole lot more.
Careful planning and preparations in advance will help lessen the stress. However, things don’t always go according to plan. Worse, they’re out of your control when they do. This is one of the reasons why moving home is considered to be even more stressful than divorce.
Given that moving home is a challenge, do kids get as stressed as much as adults do?
The quick answer is yes. In fact, you should never underestimate the psychological and emotional impacts of moving home on children. Unlike adults, children aren’t as used to big changes especially when it involves saying goodbye to friends, classmates, and the place where they grew up.
Children think and react differently from one another. Some kids may feel thrilled and happy about moving home while some may not. There are also many different reasons why some children will react negatively.
You already have so much on your plate as an adult or parent during this ordeal. The least that you want is to have to deal with children who are not into the idea of moving home. That said, there are things that you can do to making moving house with kids stress-free.
No matter how old they are, talk to your kids about what’s going to happen — the earlier, the better. For very young children, you can draw pictures to show them what moving day is like. It’s also advisable to let older children know when and why you’re moving.
It’s understandable that moving home is a decision that is made by adults. And although kids don’t tend to have a say in the matter, don’t let them feel that way. You may think that you’re protecting them by not talking about the move but doing so might bring more harm than good.
Packing your things is probably one of the most difficult tasks when moving home. Having kids to worry about while you’re doing it can only add to your stress levels. That said, let them get involved.
Instead of packing their rooms for them, allow them to it themselves. Not only will this prevent them from feeling left out, but you will also appreciate the extra help that you’ll get. This will also allow them to know which things they want to keep and which ones they don’t — another way for you to get rid of unnecessary stuff.
Similar to packing, get the kids involved when you arrive at your new home. Ideally, you’ll want to have their rooms unpacked first. If you had allowed them to pack their things before you moved, they would know exactly what they want to unpack first and what boxes they are in.
This should also give you the time to do other important things while the kids are occupied. You don’t want the kids to be running and playing around the new house when you haven’t unpacked your things yet.
This is another way to keep children occupied while you’re busy moving home. It also makes moving home less of a hassle and more of a fun activity. The idea is to let the kids design their rooms.
For instance, make them decide what colour they would like their rooms to be painted. You can also provide them with cardboard boxes that they can decorate and personalise before moving day. From the curtains, carpets, beds, etc. — allow them to be creative and make them feel important.
Kids get bored very easily. And when a kid is bored, tantrums are very likely to follow. To prevent this from happening, be sure to keep all their favourite toys, games, books, etc. in a separate box. These things are sure to come in handy especially during a long trip to your new home.
You can also schedule a playdate for your children on moving day. After all, it’s a lot easier to move around the house when the kids are not around. Just see to it that they are accompanied by an adult while they play outside.
When you arrive at your new home, check if it’s possible for you to unpack and set up the television first. Too much TV is not advisable for kids, however, let this one slip for the time being. Having the kids gathered in one room watching TV is one less thing to worry about.
See to it that you still stick to your normal routines no matter how busy you are. This can prove to be a challenge but doing so will make the transition easier for them. Meal schedules should still be followed as is and the same goes for their other routines.
When moving day comes, don’t forget to have snacks and drinks close by. Just as boredom can get kids to be grumpy, so does hunger and thirst.
Stress isn’t a bad thing contrary to what many believe. It’s the body’s natural reaction when faced with triggers causing it to switch to a ‘fight or flight’ mode. It’s not an exaggeration to say that humankind wouldn’t have survived without stress.
Kids are a little bit different though. They don’t have the ability yet to control what they feel, like fear and anxiety. So as much as possible, don’t show your kids that you’re feeling stressed before and during moving day.
Your kids will look to you for emotional cues. And when you’re incredibly stressed out, they’re likely to pick it up and feel the same way. Let them hear only exciting and positive things about your new home, not otherwise.
Follow the tips above and moving home is sure to be smooth and stress-free. If all else fails, you can also consider hiring a professional mover which, of course, will cost you money. However, the convenience, time, and stress that you would have saved will far outweigh its costs.
Besides, having a professional mover will give you more time to focus on kids come moving day.comments powered by Disqus
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